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WHAT IS SELF SABOTAGE? The term self-sabotage which is synonymous to behavioral dysregulation  is the act of undermining oneself and effort negatively, which could either be conscious or unconscious depending on your degree of awareness. In other words, self-sabotage is the act of thinking that something is too good enough for you or something is too good to be true. It’s typically attributed to lack of self worth and self-esteem. Self-sabotage makes you as the “ saboteur” (A person who practices sabotage) feel like you are not worthy of good things , corrading your self confidence and also leaving you with the I can’t and I don’t deserve this mindset. This believe only validates negative behavior that eat away your potentials and achievements. More so self-sabotage diminishes your drive and motivation leaving you in a state of sadness, anxiety and crippled self-esteem. IDENTIFYING SELF SABOTAGING HABITS Self sabotage can manifest in different forms, it's unique...

WHAT IS GHOSTING? Incase you are not conversant with the term " ghosting ", it is the act of simply cutting off all forms of bond with someone without telling them why or without prior notice. It usually involves ignoring calls, not acknowledging texts, emails and avoiding any form of communication. Ghosting could also mean reading someone's messages and deciding not to reply for a very long time. It is considered to be a silent treatment approach which is so unempathetic, immature and very cruel. Ghosting usually leaves the " ghostee " ( The  one who's being ghosted) in a state of abandonment and uncertainty, wondering if he/she has done or said anything wrong in the previous meeting or chat.  When this happens, you bite yourself so hard, wishing you have done things very differently. You try to over-analyze and overthink everything that happened before they ghosted you. Ghosting is however for wimps of the highest order. Anyone who indulges in it doesn...

     Meeting with someone for the first time can feel like a lot of pressure and overwhelming. First date is usually the first process of getting acquitted with your date physically in a very conducive environment, which might not be necessarily fancy. During this process you want to create a good impression about yourself and also see how well you can connect with your them, however it is important to stay away from overly personal questions.  Here are three questions you should avoid asking on a first date; 1. DO NOT ASK ABOUT EXES!       It is important that you keep your previous relationship history off the discussion table. When you talk about it, it might create a scenario in your date's mind that you have not gotten over your ex yet. It is considered a bad idea to bring up a discussion about your ex at every available opportunity, cause that might be a sign that you have not moved on yet. Your only focus should be centered on getting to know da...